A lot of good Christian women like you are frustrated because they can’t get a serious partner. That’s why you hear them saying things like, “all men are liars and cheaters” or “There aren’t any good guys out there”. That’s why I am writing this article to help you get a guy of good moral character to be your loving husband.
How to Get a Christian Guy to Like You
- Say Yes
- Consider alternatives to Tinder and Bumble
- Try to be interesting
- Participate in discussion groups
- Don’t be desperate
- Stay positive
- Confidence is key
- Check your expectations
If a guy asks you on a date, say yes unless you feel unsafe. Sometimes God sends us the best gifts wrapped in plain-looking paper. Closing the door to someone because he isn’t necessarily your type could be blocking your blessing.
Even if he doesn’t turn out to be your next husband going on more dates will help you to better communicate with and understand men better. It could also show you areas of opportunity for your own growth. By saying yes and going on more dates you’ll be better prepared for when you go on a date with that guy you really have a crush on.
Consider Alternatives to Tinder
If you’re looking for a serious Christian partner then apps like Tinder and Bumble are probably the worst places to look. Most guys on those apps are looking to get laid more than a girl to take home to mom.
Moreover, those apps teach users to devalue each other and make quick harsh judgments on potential partners. A single photograph and a small blurb are not enough to assess someone’s character for dating. Plus it can leave users feeling demoralized and hopeless. I have an article on best Christian dating sites if you want a serious partner.
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
1 Corinthians 15:33
Try to Be Interesting, Not Sexual
Far too often I see women just posting pictures that are too revealing and hoping to attract a good guy. BORING! Will a picture in your bra attract a guy? Sure. But if you want to attract a good Christan guy you need to show something that is unique and interesting about you. Almost every woman out there loves good food, traveling, and some sort of animal. Try to think of something special about you that you can put on your dating profile.
Just a friendly tip, most guys who plaster their profiles with semi-nude photos of themselves are just looking for attention, sex, or money, not love
Whether we like it or not physical desire will always be part of a guy’s reasons for seeking a partner. A woman who is modest and shows that she is worth the wait will attract the right guys and repel the wrong ones.
Participate in Discussion Groups
Participate in discussion groups on Facebook. Guys want a girl who can carry on a decent conversation. Nobody wants a relationship that consists of ‘hi, have you eaten yet?’ and ‘so…what are you doing now’. So lame…
By participating in discussions you’re showing that you have the capacity to engage in real and interesting conversation. Participating in discussion groups will teach you how to communicate with men more effectively so you’ll be ready when you go into messenger chats.
A Zero is Better Than a Negative
Desperation is never attractive and guys are just naturally more attracted to women that don’t need them. That’s why you notice whenever you’re in a relationship guys start coming out of the woodwork declaring that they like you. If you send a guy messages begging for a relationship or just coming off as thirsty he won’t respect you, at best, and, at worse, he may take advantage of you. When it comes to relationships always remember a zero is better than a negative.
Yes, it’s okay to say you are looking for a long term relationship (LTR), in fact, I encourage it, but you should also add ‘with the right guy for me’. So instead of saying “I’m looking for an LTR”, when he asks what you are looking for you can say, “I’m looking for an LTR with the right person who loves God.”
Positivity is What You Need!
Be positive! Please don’t spend your conversations complaining about how your ex treated you or how everyone you’ve talked to asks you for money or inappropriate photos. Trust me, nobody wants to hear that and you’ll just come off as some bitter, desperate woman.
Most of the time the only guys that will stick around after listening to you drone on about your ex will be the guys who just want something from you. When you are talking to a guy try to stay positive, he’s not your therapist. Remember, the purpose of the first few conversations is to find things that you have in common and to find out if he shares your values and objectives in life. Read my article on how long Christians Should Date Before Marriage.
Confidence is Key!
Be confident. Most guys are attracted to women who are confident and can hold their own. Very few men these days want a needy woman who can’t provide for herself. Even if you don’t have the flattest tummy or the prettiest face, you can still be attractive in his eyes if you are confident about yourself.
Oh, and it’s a huge turn off when you complain about your physical features fishing for compliments. The best way to be confident is to focus on your strengths instead of your perceived shortcomings. If you’re intelligent and a hard working woman, focus on that instead of your physical attributes. You can also go to niche sites and apps that fit you. I highly recommend Christian women try out eHarmony, they do a lot to weed out creeps and it’s an oasis in the desert of mainstream dating culture.
Check Your Expectations
We all want the best partner we can get and there’s nothing wrong with that, but, it’s important that we keep our expectations in line with what we have to offer. I see far too many women who are simply way too picky and are frustrated because they’re still single. Clearly, I’m not suggesting you go out with a guy who makes you grimace when you look at him or a loser that doesn’t have a job or any means of supporting himself. I am suggesting you take a long quiet time to reflect on what you are expecting your future partner to be and what you have to offer in exchange. Only you can decide what you’re willing to be flexible on and what you must have.
Finding a guy isn’t rocket science. Too many women make getting a date far more complicated than it has to be. If you are single and don’t want to be then you should just put yourself out there and meet people. Every dud will get you one step closer to that date that may turn into your next husband.