I’ve been talking to and helping Christian brothers find love for years now. Many of them are frustrated in their search for a Christian wife. When I suggest looking to The Philippines a few are hesitant and want to know ‘why should you date a Filipina’?
I advise many Christian brothers who are seeking a life partner to consider the Philippines for several reasons. 1. Filipinas are known for their pleasant disposition 2. They have more traditional values than a lot of western women 3. They are much more forgiving when it comes to age than western woman.
Many men are skeptical at first because they are worried about being scammed. While that does happen it shouldn’t preclude you from seeking love in The Philippines. I’ve consoled many brothers who have been scammed by women that live on the next block over. The trick is to know when a Filipina actually loves you.
The Filipino culture is quite passionate–especially in terms of love. It’s really not difficult to tell if her feelings are real once you know what to look for. First and foremost it’s common for people in The Philippines to fall in love quickly. So don’t let it scare you off if you feel the ‘love vibes’ after only a couple of weeks of talking.
Here’s How to Know a Pinay Actually Likes You
Sign 1: She calls often
A Filipina in love will seek to be around you often whether it’s in person or virtually. People in love will call often and try to integrate you into their social circles. If her feelings are genuine then she should be trying to introduce you to her friends and family to have them evaluate you.
Sign a Filipina doesn’t like you: you don’t hear from her
You don’t hear from her for long spans of time. I don’t care what her excuses are: whether she says she has exams, her boss is making her put in extra hours on the job, or even a death in the family. There is no reason to go days and days without hearing from someone that says she loves you.
Sign 2: Trying to win you over
Filipinas are trained to want to serve their husbands in order to win them over. Whether you consider this to be a good or bad thing is up to you but culturally that’s the way it is. That’s why a Filipina in love will often talk about what she will do for you such as cooking your favorite meal, making sure your shirts are ironed, and rubbing your back when you get home from work etc.
Sign she doesn’t like you: talks about what you can do for her
If she is always talking about ‘when I get my papers’ or saying things like ‘oh honey I hope you know how to fix cars because my brother’s car is on the fritz’ that’s a bad sign. It means she’s trying to think of ways she can use you besides your money. Many scammers use this to make themselves feign feelings for you.
Sign 3: Shows jealousy
If you are dating Filipinas online properly you should never just settle for the first or second girl you talk to right away. You have a lot of options and it’s important that you evaluate them carefully–and of course, pray on it. A Filipina that is in love will start asking if you are chatting with other girls and show jealousy if she thinks you are.
Sign she doesn’t like you: is indifference
If she acts indifferently to you chatting with other girls that’s a very bad sign. Filipinos are very territorial and almost no Filipina no matter how educated is okay with someone she likes talking to other girls.
Sign 4: Makes fun of you
If she’s in love with you that means she’s comfortable with you and she’ll show that by making fun of you. The Philippines is not a politically correct society so it’s not considered rude to make comments about someone’s weight or other defects if you know them. In fact, making fun of you is a good sign she’s comfortable with you.
Sign she doesn’t like you: lets other people make fun of you
Now I want to make a very important distinction here! If you catch her only making fun of you behind your back in her native tongue that’s a very bad sign! She should never be making fun of you to her friends behind your back. If you catch her doing that end the relationship NOW!
Sign 5: She defends you
Someone in love will defend you against all perceived attacks. When my father was dating his Filipina he told me they were with a group of friends and one of them (who didn’t know him) made a quip about his weight. She jumped right in before he could even reply telling her friend “you sure are one to talk!” in a joking but not joking way. Another time they were in Cebu and a guy tried to overcharge my dad quite a bit (more than double) for a motorcycle rental and she flatly told the guy “Do you think we are stupid? Give the real price or we go right now!”.
Sign she doesn’t like you: is indifferent to others talking about you
Nobody in love is okay with people saying bad things about their lover-even if they are true! This is why it’s really good to learn some phrases in Tagalog. If you hear words like bobo (stupid), pangit (ugly), or taba (fat) being directed at you and she does nothing or even laughs with them that means she agrees with them and doesn’t love you–sorry.
Sign 6: She wants the best for you
A buddy of mine was dating a Filipina. Now you see he’s a real techie that cares way more about code than his appearance. One day he told me that he wanted to go out to the grocery store to get something but his girlfriend wouldn’t let him go out with a wrinkled shirt. She insisted he let her iron it because she didn’t want any of the neighbors to think poorly of him. He told me that’s when he knew she was the one to be his wife.
You see, love is always about the little things. When someone really loves you, you will feel it. It doesn’t need to be said. Let us not forget Matthew 7:16 know them by their fruits. Put another way–actions speak louder than words. Most Filipinas falling in love will try to hide it until they’re sure the feeling is mutual. If she’s declaring love after the first few chats then that’s not a good sign. If, however, you start to see the above signs, and even better her trying to hide them, then you can know her feelings are real.
Trust God and Your Instincts
There are three types of guys that look for wives in The Philippines. Some that are way too gullible and will believe anything a nice pair of legs tells them. Others are so paranoid they end up driving away good girls with their suspicion. The last group are the one’s the trust their instincts and trust God to guide them to the right choice.
You want to be in that last group and you do that by being a person of honor and integrity and truly accepting in your heart that there simply is no good reason to rush. Good fortune comes to those who wait.