Is eHarmony Worth It? Here’s What Happened to Me

Okay so you’re sick and tired of being single. You want a serious relationship and you know eharmony’s matching system is world famous for matching people who are looking for a long term relationship leading to marriage. You’ve done the questionnaire and you’re about to pay but then you ask yourself “Is eharmony worth it?”. Put another way is eharmony worth the price they are charging? There are so many free dating sites out there and cheaper ones. The truth is when it comes to dating sites you get what you pay for. Could you find the love of your dreams on say or okcupid? Yes! But you’re going to have to dig through a lot, and I mean a lot, of dirt before you get to any gold. By dirt I mean people that aren’t serious, creeps, guys that say they want a real relationship but in reality just want have multiple girlfriends or a woman that says she wants a ‘good guy’ but in reality wants a good looking jerk that will syphon her bank account.

eHarmony 2019 Review: here’s what I really think

First you have to enter in your basic information and then go through a survey. Unlike before you don’t have to do the whole 40 minute survey to get started. There you’ll answer some questions about what you like and how you perceive the world. I did the whole survey because I wanted to get the best matches.

There are multiple types of questions that appear on this compatible partners test. The most common survey questions are of the ‘scale’ variety, which asks you to rate the importance of something from a scale of 1 to 7 with 1 reflecting ‘not important, none, rarely, etc.’ and 7 reflecting the opposite end with ‘very important, always, strongly agree, etc.’ The next type is known popularly as ‘multiple choice’ where you can choose one or more answers to reflect your views and opinions. In addition, there is also ‘true or false’, questions as well as short ‘text’ questions, which require you to write a short answer of around twenty words or more. There’s no denying it takes awhile to complete the survey but for me this is a strong point because again it weeds out those who aren’t serious.

After finally finishing the survey I got to see my matches. It matched me with about 20 guys but many of them were kind of far (as in order 15 miles away). Which leads me to my biggest grievance with the site–there weren’t as many options as I’d like. However, that could be because I’m a fairly ‘unique’ individual and plus once you get done weeding and weeding there just isn’t that much left considering guys like me make up 20% of the population or less.  Despite the limited options I went ahead and paid for a basic plan.

eHarmony Prices are as follows:

When I used it eharmony’s pricing is split into two tiers which they call a basic plan and a ‘total connect’ plan. Check their current pricing.

Basic Plan Cost (US Dollars)

  • 1 month for $59.95
  • 3 months for $39.95 a month. Billed in one instalment of $119.85, this is a 33% Savings
  • 6 months for $25.95 a month. Billed in one instalment of $179.70, this is a 50% Savings
  • 12 months for $10.95 a month. Billed in one instalment of $239.40, Best Value, save 67% off of the monthly rate.

Total Connect Plan Cost (US Dollars)

  • 3 months for $43.95 a month. Billed in one instalment of $134.85
  • 6 months for $33.95 a month. Billed in one instalment of $203.70, this is a 24% Savings
  • 12 months for $23.95 a month. Billed in one instalment of $287.40, this is a 47% Savings

‘RelyID’, a feature where you can get your membership information verified and to see other members who have also been verified is quite an important feature to make sure you’re talking to a real person.

‘Secure Call’ is a pretty cool feature, which allows you to make anonymous calls to other members from your personal phone number but without the other person knowing your number or location.

If you’re not satisfied with the basic personality profile, the Total Connect plan allows you to have access to a premium personality profile which is even more in-depth and extensive giving you the chance to receive matches with an even higher level of compatibility.

As you can see this isn’t the cheapest site out there and you get what you pay for. If you’re just looking to get tit pics and empty flirtation then go on tinder for free but if you want a good service to help you find your soul mate then this is a good option. For those really concerned with security the RelyID service that comes with the total connect service is totally worth it. That means the site has verified that the person you are talking to is who he says he is.

Is eHarmony worth the money?

When deciding whether or not eharmony is worth the price you also must consider the cost of other dating options you may not have considered.

The Bar Scene Drinks $20+ per night
Church Tithes, offerings, and donations $30+ per Sunday/Meeting
Staying Home Alone Movie rental fees, Haaggen-Dazs, Popcorn $15+ per night

My outcome

Unlike most dating sites where you have to sift through countless profiles to find a match they take care of  that part for you. They send you matches everyday and you decided whether or not to message them. Now I’m not going to lie and say the girl of my dreams messaged me immediately. In fact I thought maybe she was a bit too nerdy. But after a week in a half I messaged a nice young lady named Nicole. She was a  Filipina systems analyst and looking for something real. She’s a nerd just like me and even though she’s not the hottest girl I’ve laid eyes on I think she is what the universe has sent for me. Let’s be honest I probably won’t be on the cover of any beauty magazines either. I’m now proud to say she is my loving wife and I couldn’t ask for anything better.  I think that’s the best part of this experience. I didn’t get the hot Barbie millionaire, instead, I got the right girl for me.

Is eharmony worth it? For me yes it was worth it since I was actually ready to settle down and have a serious relationship without the drama. That being said if you’re just looking for a fling or friend with benefits that doesn’t really know what she wants then I would go with a site like instead. If you’re just looking for a romp then of course tinder is the app of choice.

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About the author

My name is Jake and I started this blog To help those who need to defend themselves. I'm a husband and a father and most importantly a life coach! It is my hope you find the information useful and interesting!

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