Is eHarmony Worth It? Here’s What Happened to Me

Okay, so you’re sick and tired of being single. You want a serious relationship and you know eharmony’s matching system is world famous for matching people who are looking for a long term relationship leading to marriage. You’ve done the questionnaire and you’re about to pay but then you ask yourself “Is eharmony worth it?”. Put another way is eharmony worth the price they are charging?

There’s no denying that there many free dating sites out there and even cheaper ones. The truth is when it comes to dating sites you get what you pay for. Could you find the love of your dreams on say Christian Cafe or OkCupid? Yes!

But you’re going to have to dig through a lot, and I mean a lot, of dirt before you get to any gold. By dirt, I mean people that aren’t serious, creeps, guys that say they want a real relationship but in reality just want have multiple girlfriends or a woman that says she wants a ‘good guy’ but in reality just wants a good looking jerk who will siphon her bank account.

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First, you have to enter your basic information and then go through a questionnaire. Unlike before you don’t have to do the whole 40-minute survey to get started. There you’ll answer some questions about what you like and how you perceive the world. I did the whole survey because I wanted to get the best matches.

There are multiple types of questions that appear on this compatible partners test. The most common survey questions are of the ‘scale’ variety, which asks you to rate the importance of something from a scale of 1 to 7 with 1 reflecting ‘not important, none, rarely, etc.’ and 7 reflecting the opposite end with ‘very important, always, strongly agree, etc.’ The next type is ‘multiple choice’ where you can choose one or more answers to reflect your views and opinions. In addition, there is also ‘true or false’, questions as well as short ‘text’ questions, which require you to write a short answer of around twenty words or more. There’s no denying it takes a while to complete the survey but for me, this is a strong point because again it weeds out those who aren’t serious.

After finally finishing the survey I got to see my matches. It matched me with about 20 girls but many of them were kind of far (as in the order 15 miles away). Which leads me to my biggest grievance with the site–there weren’t as many options as I’d like. However, that could be because I’m a fairly ‘unique’ individual and plus once you get done weeding and weeding there just isn’t that much left considering guys like me make up 20% of the population or less.  Despite the limited options I went ahead and paid for a basic plan.

eHarmony prices are as follows:

When I used it eharmony’s pricing is split into two tiers which they call a basic plan and a ‘total connect’ plan. Check their current pricing.

Feature Basic Total Connect
Send and receive messages from other members
Fast track the communication process by skipping the four guided communication steps
See who’s looked at your profile
RelyID (your membership information is verified)
Secure Call (make anonymous voice calls to other members to protect your information)
Premium Personality Profile (extended personality profile)

Additional features

RelyID is a feature where your membership information is verified and you can see other members who have also been verified. This is quite important to ensure that you’re talking to an actual person and that he is who he says he is. Secure Call is a pretty awesome feature that allows you to make anonymous calls to other members, with their consent, from your personal phone without the other person knowing your number or location. This is a big safety feature that will ensure that in case you’re not into the person you’re talking to there will be no additional unwanted phone calls. Premium Personality Profile If you’re not satisfied with the basic personality profile the Total Connect plan allows you to have access to a premium personality profile. This profile is way more in-depth which allows you to get matches with an even higher level of compatibility.

Is eharmony worth the money?

As you can see eharmony is not a bargain basement website–nor do they want to be. The purpose of this site is to connect people that are serious and are looking for marriage.
  • It’s not for people who are lazy
  • It’s not for people who are looking to hookup
  • Finally, it’s not for people who are just looking for a sugar daddy/mommy
If you identify as any of these things then you should go to tinder instead. If, however, you are serious and are looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with then this is the perfect service for you. By the way here are some other costs of other dating methods you may not have considered.
The Bar Scene Drinks $20+ per night
Church Tithes, offerings, and donations $30+ per Sunday/Meeting
Staying Home Alone Movie rental fees, Haagen-Dazs, Popcorn $15+ per night

The truth about eharmony

Unlike the majority of dating sites out there where you have to sift or swipe through countless profiles to find a match eharmony takes care of that part, the most arduous part, for you. They send you matches every day and you decide whether or not to message them.

Now I’m not going to lie just say that one day the girl of my dreams appeared in my inbox and it was love at first site. In fact, it was quite the opposite. I initially thought she was too nerdy for me. However, something kept drawing me back to her profile and after 3-4 days I decided to message her and I’m so glad I did…

Turns out she was a systems analyst, serious about her faith, and looking for a life companion.  I’ll be 100% honest and say that she wasn’t the most beautiful girl I’ve laid eyes on but I truly believe she is what God sent to me. To tell you the truth I’ll probably never be on the cover of a model magazine either. Let me be clear I couldn’t be more proud that she is now my wife. I think that’s the best part of my experience with eharmony. I didn’t get the hot Barbie millionaire, instead, I got the girl that GOD wanted for me and I am forever grateful to Him and eharmony for that.

As a thank you for reading my story here are some special coupons for eharmony

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Cameron W

My name is Cameron and I started this blog To help those who are looking for love and need to defend themselves.

This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. audrey davidson

    Very interesting, informative and inspiring. Practical and good reading. I am an older single 56 years never married but I keep meeting men who are very closed to any woman other than the type they have in mind, square peg square hole. Lately it has been discrimination on the basis of my never having been married before or having no children! I in turn have just found out that I choose men who are very nasty and even .abusive. Christian men also quote the scripture “men are the head of the household”, so I know immediately the issue is control. I have really suffered in this area of dating and can only rest in Christ. Let me know what you think and thanks in advance,

    1. Jake Carlson

      Hello Sister Audrey,

      Thank you very much for taking the time to ask your question. It’s a very good one that I’m sure many sisters in your position are facing. The truth is men are quite visual and this includes Christian men. In order to attract a Christ-like partner it is important we try to look our best. 1 Corinthians 3:16-17 says that we should take care of our bodies. A search for a suitable partner must always begin with deep prayer. I don’t advise sisters to pursue a man but instead to leave themselves open to be pursued. What I mean is, for example, create a profile on e-harmony or where ever. Make sure she puts her best face forward, write a thorough profile, but don’t pursue men by sending the first message. Proverbs 18:22 says a man should pursue a woman, not the other way around. Also, create profiles in other Godly spaces such as Christian Mingle and Christian Cafe. It’s important to put yourself out there but not appear thirsty or desperate. The reason being is that those with nefarious intentions often target more mature Christian women that appear thirsty. After my father went to be with the Lord my mother was left alone. She tried to pursue men but got nowhere. She kept encountering men that were Christian in name only. Once she decided in her heart to leave herself open but not pursue an old friend from college sent her a message on e-Harmony. They’ve been dating for a year now with plans to get married soon.

      I can’t say I hear of men judging a woman for not having children very often. I would ask where are you looking for a partner and what type of partner are you looking for? Some misogynistic Christian brothers will, unfortunately, try to use the ‘man is the head of the household’ verse in order to dominate and control a woman. While God commands the man be the leader he is to do so with honor and integrity. 1 Peter 3:7, 1 Corinthians 7:33, 1 Timothy 3:2,12, and Titus 1:6 all say a man must honor his wife and be considerate of her needs. Jesus also said if a man even looks at another woman with a lustful eye he has already committed adultery in his heart. I noticed that brothers who like to quote ‘the man is the head of the household’ often neglect those other verses I just mentioned. Remember as a woman of Christ your first duty is to serve God above all else including your spouse.

      God Bless,


  2. Zaita

    Thank you for a positive and Christian testimony using eHarmony. I am women of God seeking a Man after God’s own Heart so this article has proven great insight. I recently have started on eharmony a few days in. Yesterday a man who claims to be a Christian, I sent him a smile first and eventually he sent me a smile back. Thus started messaging each other from the app to personal email to another messenger where we can share pics and other things since he wanted to see my art. So far 2 days in its been like friendship and I’ll continue to pray if he is the one.
    Your article gave me hope and ideas how to go about online dating as a Christian. Once again, thank you and I will check out the rest of your website!

  3. Kyle

    Hey man. It’s good to see a black man of faith and congratulations on meeting your wife. I read your profile on Quora. I’m curious, what kind of work have you been doing after obtaining your Political Science degree?

    And, how is the married life?

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