Should Christians Try to Marry Young?

If we are Christians then we know that our ways are not the world’s ways and that’s a good thing.  That being said we need to make sure we are following God’s rules in a sustainable way. What I mean is marrying young just because you want to avoid corporeal sin may not be the best choice. What if you get married young to the wrong person and you end up committing adultery or worse divorcing? Marriage is serious and it’s sacred. It’s a pledge before your community and, more importantly, God that you will stick with that person through thick and thin for the rest of your life. It’s not something to be taken lightly.

“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.  But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.

Matthew 7:13-14

Worldly Pros & Cons of Marrying Young-Quora answer

Pros:

  • Didn’t have to worry about the dating pool anymore.
  • Had years together to become a solid couple before kids.
  • I did better in college because my focus was on studying instead of socializing.
  • Learned to negotiate and work as a team before responsibilities like careers and kids added extra stress.
  • We have many years of traditions and memories together at this point.
  • Had our kids in our late 20’s and early 30’s. We were healthier, could run after them easier, and we will be empty nesting in our early 50’s so we have time at the other end as well.

Cons:

  • Didn’t have the freedom that some people our age had.
  • We were young so our fights were more dramatic and unreasonable until we matured and learned to work together and negotiate.
  • Were very poor so had to do things like a live paycheck to paycheck and eat burnt food because we didn’t have money to buy more during parts of our lives.
  • Had more in-law issues because we were young and hadn’t fully become independent from our own families before we married.
  • If we wanted married friends, they usually were older than us.

Many Christians struggle with the question of when is the right time to get married. I strongly believe so long as you’ve followed the biblical principles* in selecting a companion in the first place it’s never too soon to get married. In fact, I don’t advise that Christian couples date longer than a year. If after a year you’re not ready to walk down the aisle then that probably isn’t the relationship God wants for you.

Historically, people got married in their teens and early 20’s. Now people are waiting until their 30’s or even 40’s to tie the knot. Here’s why it’s best to marry as soon as possible –and no it’s not just about giving in to bodily desires.

  • Scientific research has shown that a woman’s best eggs come out first. Therefore starting a family sooner rather than later means it’s less likely to produce a child with autism or Down syndrome.
  • The longer you wait to marry the significantly greater chance you have at succumbing to your bodily desires. Your companion will be there to satisfy your needs once you are married.
  • When you get married young it’s easier to grow together. Once you reach your 30’s and 40’s you’ve already formed your habits and traditions and it’s much harder to adjust to having a life companion. Whereas when you both start off young you form your habits and traditions together.

Christians must follow the advice of Christ

The modern world tells you it’s better to wait as long as possible to marry. They say if you wait you won’t get divorced. If that’s true then tell me why is it that in Utah they get married younger than the rest of the nation and the state has the lowest divorce rate in the nation? Not to mention it’s also the happiest state in the union.

Related: How to Find a Godly Wife

You see, that’s what the world doesn’t tell you. You can’t just take one biblical principle, throw it in the goulash of sin and it when doesn’t work use it to try to disprove Christ. We must put all the biblical principles together in order for the system to work like a perfectly oiled machine. People that irresponsibly date for lust and get married right away do have a higher chance of divorce. People that date with the intention of being with someone for the rest of their lives not only stay together but are happier. And yes; young adults who were raised in a responsible Godly environment are capable of making such an important decision.

What does the bible say on marrying young?

The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:18)  The world will tell you to date and hold out until nearly the last possible second to get married. That is not advisable.  Nowadays you have children residing in their mother’s house well into their 30’s and even 40’s. While some are the victims of circumstance many of that is due to lack of responsibility. God’s way is for us to grow up into adulthood and at that point leave the domicile of our parents and start our own lives and families.

Genesis 2:24 This is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh.

Since, as a Christian, you are dating with the intention to marry that means you’re choosing a companion that is the best for you and will help you on your walk with Christ. After one year you should know whether or not he/she is the right one for you. That’s why I recommend after one year together it’s time to have a serious discussion about the progression of the relationship.

Related: How to Know if a Godly Man Likes You

Conclusion

If you are a Christian and you manage to find a partner that is also strong in their faith then yes it’s better to marry sooner rather than later. However, it’s not a sin to be unmarried although it will be more difficult to live a fully Godly life if you are not married well into your adulthood.

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